Of course honesty is the best policy.
Honesty earns you trust and respect.
On the other hand, we’ve seen honesty used as a blunt instrument in many a murder of the heart and mind haven’t we?
So, that led me to wonder, are you being honest when you take the truth, twist it around someone’s neck until they turn blue and their tongue pops out of their mouth and they are for sure dead?
I don’t think so, I think at that point you used honesty for your own personal gain that makes it a lie.
When I was a kid one of my classmates referred to me as ‘ the black cat sitting on a Cadillac’. It was a TV jingle at the time. But before you knew it I was being called a Black Cat by everyone…she would not stop. So one day I hauled off and punched her in the eye and ended up in the Principal’s office with my Teacher- who was very fond of grabbing me by hair on the top or back of my head and shaking it from side to side to get my attention.
In fact, that’s how she got me to the office that day. Dragging me down past my classmates, other teachers and a janitor by the hair on the back of my head.
Nobody looked surprised.
So, we get into the office and the Principal and Teacher tell me, in all honesty ( they said ) that it wasn’t my classmate’s FAULT that I was different. I was told -almost kindly- by our Principal that I looked different and what I NEEDED to do was develop a sense of humor about BEING DIFFERENT from everyone else.
And then they brought my classmate in – with her Mother who they called right away ( my Mom got a note two days later) and told me I needed to apologize.
I looked into those self righteous faces, and into my classmate’s smirking expectant one- and from the bottom of my racing little heart- in all honesty- and on the verge of tears said with amazement
” That shiner is a beaut, isn’t it?”